The Wilde Compass

The reason I became a therapist was to focus on your story instead of my own… but it makes sense that you’d want to know a little about the person you’re trusting with your most personal thoughts and experiences.

That trust isn’t something I take lightly. Clients sometimes share stories with me in session that they’ll never tell their partners or best friends. They find the courage to share thoughts that they barely want to admit out loud to themselves. It’s truly a privilege to hold that space and to meet it with care, curiosity, and without judgment.

I’m highly authentic, and I want to build therapeutic relationships where you can show up the same way. I have a dark sense of humor, and you’ll be hard-pressed to shock or offend me, but I love the clients that try. I know I’m not the right therapist for everyone. I love and tend to work best with clients who are introspective, accountable, open to being challenged, and motivated to make meaningful changes.

In my couples work, I often use the metaphor of being “Ikea.” Like Ikea, I’ll give you all the skills and tools to build “the relationship of your dreams.” But you have to go home and actually do the work. Therapy can guide the process, and be your ‘compass,’ but I can’t do the work for you and your life isn’t going to magically change over the course of one hour every week. You also can’t come back to Ikea if your shit is still in pieces and just complain it for an hour. The bulk of the work is being done outside of our time together.

Therapy is powerful, but I don’t believe it should exist in isolation. Your experiences are shaped by larger systems, family, environment, culture, and the body itself. I pursued my doctorate with that broader impact in mind. I take a holistic and systemic approach to counseling and tailor my approach to each client’s individual needs and goals. I always take an evidence based, multicultural, and holistic approach, but also pull from heavily from reality, somatic, DBT, CBT, EFT, and Gottman’s approaches. I believe the ultimate goal of therapy is lasting, meaningful, positive change.

I don’t believe in neutrality in the face of harm. I actively protest the Trump administration, and I’m a vocal advocate for reproductive justice, LGBTQ+ rights, DEI, public safety, and healthcare reform.

I received my Bachelors of Science in Psychology from Northeastern University in Boston, a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from UNCC, and my doctorate in Organizational Leadership, Learning, & Policy from Vanderbilt University.